This article was released by The New York Times on Friday, and I just had a chance to sit down and read it on Sunday. It seemed to have such a silly title that I almost bypassed it altogether after a quick glance. “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This”? Seriously? I couldn’t believe it was written by The NY Times, as it sounded like a gossip column. But given the source, I decided to give it a chance, and I’m glad that I did..
I usually lean toward The NY Times when I’m looking for articles to educate myself about current events and related matters, though their Fashion & Style section
is pretty good, as well. This article (as I should have guessed), falls under that category, and it is quite an interesting read.
The author, Mandy Len Catron, who writes a “Modern Love” column, discusses love – and how psychologists are quite curious to figure out if they can “make” it happen between two individuals. Imagine. Catron explains that in the midst of a breakup, she also “turned to science, hoping there was a way to love smarter,” and she set out to see what would happen if she, too, could “make” herself fall in love.
Catron refers to a study she learned about in college, which was done by Arthur Aron, and requires that two individuals spend time together discussing answers to these 36 questions
. Super interesting if you give them all a read; a few of them really made me really wonder what my answers would be. Some of the questions are simple, i.e. I know my answer immediately, and others – not so much. Number 7, for instance. Whoa.
I don’t want to give anything away, but I was hooked throughout this entire article, and I sped through it quite quickly; it’s like a great book that you just can’t put down – except much shorter. And that’s exactly how a great article should make you feel. All in all, I learned once again to not judge a book by its cover..or an article by its title. Take a peek and read it when you have a chance.